2016年8月27日土曜日

Scolding is difficult

Hello, everyone!! 奥です。皆さんお元気ですか?

Long time no see! I am doing well. My second daughter, Akina is getting bigger,'GOOD'.
Now she weighs 7.5 kg. These days, she understands more about what's going on around her than ever before. She has started eating Baby food and is very curious for food now. When I eat something with her in my arms, she gazes at the food (and me). Her eyes say, ' I want to eat, Mum!' She can eat lots, rice gruel, carrot, potato, sweet potato, pumpkin, tofu, egg, udon, etc... She eats in the morning and evening.
And my first daughter is fine, too. I feel she is growing so fast. Her speaking is getting better day by day.
My family are often amazed by her precocious talking. One day, my mother was singing a song to Akina, then Yuina said, 'Grandma, please be quiet because Akina-chan is sleeping.' That was the thing I said to her often. The other day, when my husband came back from work, she said, 'Dad, you smell bad!' I have never said that. And I don't think he smells that bad. We don't understand why but he said, ' I was hurt.' Anyway, she can learn a lot of things at home, nursery school, and from people around her, etc..

 I feel it is complicated to scold her these days. Sometimes, I have to scold her when she does mischief.
Let me say the number of her mischief. Throwing toys, stamping books, overturn garbage box, upset the cup of drink, play with food, etc.
When those things happen, I have to say some words and redirect. But I wonder how I should talk to her.
I always say like this, 'Why are you doing this???' ' Is it funny to you??? 'But don't do that because....... ' I explain the reason. But she does the same thing again. Gradually, I like, 'I said to you before~~~~~.' (sigh)  then next time, same things happened. She played with food and I said 'No!', then she said, ' You said before?'

What is the best way to tell??? When I recall it, I think I can't say well when I am tired, irritated, not happy,,,, I wonder if she thinks I am a scolding mother. I know it would be true that disobedience is a proof of enhancing her identity, but ...

Scolding is difficult.