Fond parents?

 

Last Sunday, it was my first daughter’s recital. Last year, my husband couldn’t come due to his work but this year, he had a paid-day-off.

We were so much excited by imagining how cute she would be in her stage costume, how she would dance on the stage in front of us.

 

The very best day, in the venue, there were so many children, their families and friends. After taking her to a waiting room, we sat on our seats in the big hall and waited.

After the announcement, a drop curtain opened. The audience started cheering. Those in the hall were already excited only by watching children’s costume.

Almost all the parents set their smart phones, digital cameras and video cameras. Definitely, they including us were into the recording.

 

Parents called for their children’s name and so did we.

When the music started, the excitement of the audience was max. Their performance was so cute with innocent movements. My husband and I immediately found our daughter.

I almost cried while watching her in the stage. I was so impressed to see her growth even though she is still like a baby at home. We were very proud of her.

 

  

There is no correct answer for child raising.

Since I came back to WIXAS, I have been feeling that I’m always pushed for time and I can’t relax.
In reality, It is not that bad but I can't help feeling like that.

A week has passed and I’m getting more and more tired as it goes.

Everyday, I have to wake up at at least 6 AM before kids get awake.
Otherwise, I can't do my routine for my husband and me, such as making Obento, getting ready for Hoikuen, holding laundries, doing dishes, etc...
Sometimes kids wake up early in the morning before these things are done.
I think 'Oh my god~~' in my mind.

After my husband leaves for work, I try to finish all the houseworks, then take my daughters to their Hoikuens.
It is normally about 9 AM when I drop off second daughter at the Hoikuen.
I then, finally have a short break before work.
I finish the work at 4 PM and rush to pick kids up.
In the evening, time flies again and it becomes 8 PM so fast after dinner and bathing.
I get so tired but my mind is filled with what I do tomorrow. I just want to rest as long as possible.
I often leave things undone until next morning even though there are plenty of my duties.
Luckily, my husband does dishes everyday. So I leave him in the kitchen and say 'Good night'. And daughters and I go to bedroom.
Of course, they do not sleep soon.
I always read books for first daughter. That is our routine.
She wants more play with me but I just want to sleep especially during the mid week, that is all.
I feel sorry for her.

The other day, after reading a couple of books, I turned off the light and we started to sleep.
Then she said,' I want to go to toilet.'
To be honest, I was irritated. It is too cold to go to the toilet at night in the middle of the winter.But I had no choice, I took her to the toilet.

In the toilet, she said, 'I don't want to pee.'
I thought, 'Hah??' but calmly, 'OK, then go back to the bedroom.
'After a few minutes, she said, 'Mum, I want to go to toilet again.'
I thought, 'Huh, again??' but said, 'OK.'
In the toilet, she wanted to play with a toilet paper and did not pee. 
I understand that now she is in the toilet training.
She is almost perfect to pee in the toilet of the Hoikuen but sometimes she misses it. At the end, she went to the toilet 5 times and did not pee. My anger reached the max.Finally I said, 'Even if you go to the toilet, you don't pee. I am tired.'
She said and cried, 'I GO!! Mum, I go to the toilet if I want to go, DO YOU UNDERSTAND?'

I thought I was noticed by her. I felt regret myself for having bad feeling at her.

She just practiced to pee...I felt self-hate that night.

Next morning, I hugged her and said to her, 'I am sorry last night, I was so tired.'

She said, 'Yes,,,'.
I thought myself I should treat her well even if I am busy for second daughter. 

I talked about this story to my friend and she said,
'Oh, you don't have to say sorry!! Your daughter needs to learn mum's situation.
If you always feel sorry for her and treat her too kindly, she will be selfish.
Now she is 3. 3 year old kids understand things more than you expect.'

I was convinced.

There is no correct answer for child raising...

I came back to WIXAS!!!

Hello Everyone!

I came back to WIXAS!!

My second daughter has started to go to Hoikuen since her 1-year-old birthday, 11th of Jan.

It passed only a few days yet now so she has been experiencing difficult time in an unfamilier place.

But I believe she will be fine soon.

About me, I could refresh myself so much for a year of maternity leave.

Looking back on these days, it’s such a memory of being filled with mother's job at that time. I felt I was out of society somehow but also I could enjoy the time as well.

Now I feel 'I have been back as a member of society finally.' Of course, full-time housewives are members of society but I, for myself feel when I have a job, I am a member of society.

From now on, I have to work harder than before for my family and myself. I wonder how I will be able to deal with the work???

Anyway, just try without worring too much.

皆さん、またよろしくお願いします！！

☆My Daughter at her Undokai ☆

 Hello everyone!
The weather has been perfect these days.
I feel so good to be outside. I like gardening. 
The flowers in this time of the year are very beautiful, such as viola, pansy, cosmos, stock, and so on.I enjoy planting plants when my baby is sleeping.

 On 10th of Oct, it was supposed to be my daughter Yuina's Undokai at her Hoikuen. But it was postponed until next day due to a heavy rain. On the day, it was very best day for the event. She had been excited from early morning. In her class, there were two programs to enter. One is competition and the other is dance. Both of them are parents and children programs, so I also had to enter with her. According to her teacher, they had practiced the programs for two weeks so she was very excited because of that. Her programs were second and third. Parents and children were lined together. In fact, some children in her class looked very nervous. It's no doubt it was because there were so many people watching them. Some children were clinging to their mothers, crying out loud and running away from the line in the end. For them, it seemed to just not possible to take part in the program.

On the other hand, Yuina looked fine at all. In the first program, they were to rush to a box, grab one vegetable, run to the animals and put them into their mouths. It's our turn then. I said, 'Go and grab the vegetable, Yuina!' She rushed and did everything by herself. I only followed her and didn't help her at all.
And the dance, she remembered its sequence and danced very well. I also danced along the teachers.
There were some children who were just standing on the track and did not want to dance. And some of them were clinging to their mothers even though their mothers asked to get off. Well, those attitudes were also natural for their age I think.

When everything finished, she looked very proud and I praised her for the practice she had done in the past weeks.
I had a great relief anyway. If she had been like other children, I would have been embarrassed in front of my parents because they came all the way to see her. It was a day I found it she has grown a lot.

Scolding is difficult

Hello, everyone!! 奥です。皆さんお元気ですか？

Long time no see! I am doing well. My second daughter, Akina is getting bigger,'GOOD'.
Now she weighs 7.5 kg. These days, she understands more about what's going on around her than ever before. She has started eating Baby food and is very curious for food now. When I eat something with her in my arms, she gazes at the food (and me). Her eyes say, ' I want to eat, Mum!' She can eat lots, rice gruel, carrot, potato, sweet potato, pumpkin, tofu, egg, udon, etc... She eats in the morning and evening.

And my first daughter is fine, too. I feel she is growing so fast. Her speaking is getting better day by day.
My family are often amazed by her precocious talking. One day, my mother was singing a song to Akina, then Yuina said, 'Grandma, please be quiet because Akina-chan is sleeping.' That was the thing I said to her often. The other day, when my husband came back from work, she said, 'Dad, you smell bad!' I have never said that. And I don't think he smells that bad. We don't understand why but he said, ' I was hurt.' Anyway, she can learn a lot of things at home, nursery school, and from people around her, etc..

 I feel it is complicated to scold her these days. Sometimes, I have to scold her when she does mischief.
Let me say the number of her mischief. Throwing toys, stamping books, overturn garbage box, upset the cup of drink, play with food, etc.

When those things happen, I have to say some words and redirect. But I wonder how I should talk to her.
I always say like this, 'Why are you doing this???' ' Is it funny to you??? 'But don't do that because....... ' I explain the reason. But she does the same thing again. Gradually, I like, 'I said to you before~~~~~.' (sigh)  then next time, same things happened. She played with food and I said 'No!', then she said, ' You said before?'

What is the best way to tell??? When I recall it, I think I can't say well when I am tired, irritated, not happy,,,, I wonder if she thinks I am a scolding mother. I know it would be true that disobedience is a proof of enhancing her identity, but ...
Scolding is difficult.